I Love My Job but My Boss…..by Kevin Lloyd

Columbus BlackBlog Series Vol. 1, Kevin Lloyd

There are many ways in which you may want to finish this sentence and I look forward to your comments after you finish reading this blog.

Leadership 2As a tenured leader of more than 20 years, I have learned to work hard at ensuring my team is not spending their time finishing a sentence like this with a negative comment as it relates to how I am leading them.

If you are in a supervisory or leadership position, remember that you are “dinner talk” for your team every night. What are they saying about you to their loved ones? Do you care???

If this subject line piqued your interest, let’s get to the root cause as to why and figure out what’s next…

I decided to write about this topic due to numerous conversations that I’ve had over the years in which I’ve heard others convey a lot of positive remarks regarding their passion to be successful, their strong work ethic and their plans to achieve and exceed their goals. However, there is that one thing that seems to be missing – The support of their boss or leader.

Their positivity turns into frustration, disappointment and at times they share that they are discouraged.

Leadership is real and the fact is, People want to be Led and they want to be Led effectively. We all do! Even if you are an entrepreneur and you run the show, you want to be Led effectively by your Pastor, the leaders of your church, Your Mayor, Your Governor, other Key Political figures including the President and most definitely by the Lord. It’s just the natural order of things.

Therefore, when you’re not Led effectively or supported, it has a very detrimental impact on you.

I believe that when it comes to leadership, a title is just a title and a true leader doesn’t require the title. “Many people have the title Leader and don’t Lead, while many Leaders don’t have the title but always Lead”

I am sure that this quote resonates with many of you as you digest it.

So, what is a leader?

Definition of a leader:

The person who leads or commands a group, organization, or country.

As you can tell, it is possible that anyone, including you may be a leader.

Leaders know how to motivate and inspire others to accomplish a common goal.  They have a unique way of establishing a common respect with others that allows them to gain buy-in and commitment resulting in collective success.

If you have a great leader, they are looking for you to exhibit leadership behaviors as well. Here are some key things that you can do to lead effectively (with or without the title) and to also lead your leader.

We’ll begin with Confidence. Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. As you are looking to exhibit your leadership abilities, establishing confidence with your team as well as your supervisor is a critical attribute.

It is created over time and is based on prior actions. Ironically, this is mutual for both you as well as your supervisor. Over time, as you complete task or assignments, ask questions, provide answers, learn, grow, make mistakes, etc., there is a level of confidence that is gained by you and others.

Along with this confidence, you begin to establish credibility. Credibility is like making a deposit into our bank account, which gives you the ability to make withdrawals when needed. It is something that you earn over time, giving you access to resources when you need them. Those resources are normally people who are willing to follow your lead and do whatever it takes to help you be successful.

They tend to do this because they know that you have their best interest in mind as well.

Since confidence is something that you acquire based on your actions and experiences, you have to be cautious of perceptions that may be established by some regarding your level of confidence.

This is important because there is a very thin line between confidence and cocky. Cocky is conceited or arrogant, especially in a bold or impudent way.

Unfortunately, most of us have worked with leaders who are cocky. We see them as leaders of companies, sports teams, in the entertainment industry, volunteer groups and even in the church. They come in all ages and all sizes, all ethnicities and all religions.

What is the common theme?

Whether things are going great or not so great, 

Don’t blame the company or the organization. 

It’s the People, It’s always People, It could be YOU!!!

Therefore, it is important that you stay accountable to yourself. Stay humble, stay focused and remember that people want to be led. Once again, No matter who you are, we all want to be led by someone great.

In order to effectively lead your leader, you must have a solid strategy. Some of you may ask, why would I want to lead my leader?

Others of you, know exactly why you would want to lead your leader and you have either been trying to figure it out or you have been doing it for some time.

Well, your strategy is going to differ based on your leader and their leadership style. However, what is consistent is that your strategy should be based on the goals that you want to accomplish in your role and how you need your leader to help you accomplish your goal.

The ball is completely in your court on how you should begin to establish your strategy. In a future post, I will share an exercise to identify what it is that you want to accomplish so that you can establish your strategy.

For those of you who have a supervisor who is difficult to deal with or they are not the supportive type, please see the definitions and quote below before you begin to identify your strategy:

Definition of glass ceiling

An unofficially acknowledged barrier to advancement in a profession, especially affecting women and members of minorities.

Definition of ignorance

Lack of knowledge or information.

Definition of mojo

a magic charm, talisman, or spell.


“Don’t let the glass ceiling of ignorance impact your Mojo”

– Kevin Lloyd

Until my next post, keep your head up, stay focused and remember the quote.




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